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Cock Block

Women have it easy. They can go out and get laid nearly effortlessly, but men on the other hand aren't quite so lucky. Even the male half of a swinging couple must put forth the effort to catch the eye of a pretty lady at a party. Vanillas may think that being a swinger at a swinger party pretty much guarantees sex, but the truth of the matter is that sex is never guaranteed.

The rule of thumb for both swinger men and vanilla men (I apologize if you feel a little plain, but in fact you are) is keep your mind open and your hands to yourself. This may seem contradictory to some, but if you are open to talking just a little and not groping her out of control you will succeed more times than not. Trust me, I am a woman and I know these things.

Don't talk yourself out of sex. Why do men feel the need to exaggerate their sexual powers that be (or not be)? This is a complete turn off and will not only drive away the object of your desires, but also all her hot friends as well.  On more than one occasion a man has hyped himself up to me and once we are in bed nothing occurs expect watching Soccer Dad hump away with is hardened meat whistle while I'm left playing with Gumby.

Pick up on her cues. If she is leaning in and showing interest, give her a little interest back. Kiss her on the cheek, nuzzle her ear, or put your hand on the small of her back, but don't choke her with your lizard tongue or grab her breasts like you are a some idiot (by that way that does make you an idiot). Anyway, cues for all are important to recognize. At a swingers party these means its time to say ready to go hook up? It's a shame to miss out because you are stupid.

Be prepared to be turned down. I know, I know it really sucks.  Sometimes no doesn't mean never, but not now. Listen to what she actually says. Looking like an ass because she doesn't want to hook up with you tonight guarantees there will not be any future chances.  The better you behave after you are turned down, messed up or fail to perform the more likely you will be given a second chance.

Once you have un-cock blocked yourself, became the man of the hour, and are finally prepared properly to get some action you might get to experience some amazing sex.   Now just make sure you get another shot at it.  You know the routine: pull my hair, slap my ass and make the moment memorable in a good way!

1. These are good tips for average looking men but if you're cute and funny you can get away with murder and still get great sex.
2. Great advice. Dressing well, standing straight, smiling, and maintaining eye contact has served me well with women. I also go easy on the alcohol because my ability to stay hard is affected if I drink too much. I'd say 2 beers is the limit on a night that I want to hookup.
3. the bussier my slut wife get, the better may chances are, from experience 
    

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