November 18, 2011

Would Ashton and Demi
still be together if they had and
Open Marriage?

Considering the divorce rate of the rich and famous of Hollywood, it comes as no surprise that Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore are joining the ranks of the divorced. It must be terribly difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship with all that fame and money not to mention the time apart with thousands of adoring fans clamoring for your attention wherever you go.  I'm being dead serious.

We've publicly watched the downfall of many happy unions in the press because of infidelity.  And while so many will bash the cheater, drop his/her endorsement s because of multiple torrid affairs the fact is that it's human nature to desire others.  Why are so many still so oppressed about everyone else's private life?  I bet that many of those companies that dropped Tiger Woods endorsements because of his personal life have cheaters in the ranks.

When I took my marriage vows there was no mention that my eyes would no longer find another man attractive.  While I live with my husband on a daily basis and choose to open talk about my attraction to others, I can't imagine being in a situation that would keep us separate for weeks or even months.  How is that a normal marriage in any sense?  Many of you believe that my marriage, while sexy to hear about, is totally abnormal.  The difference between what I do and what the average American does is I have sex with others WITH permission.  Before you tell me that I am wrong and most marriages are totally monogamous you might want to think again.

Cheating is about sneaking about, lying and hiding things from your significant other.  What if Ashton had been honest with Demi regarding the notion that he was lonely or in need of attention from other women?  Would their marriage had lasted longer? 

More couples are staying together because of financial woes.  For so many of the economically challenged divorce is just not an option.  But with the super rich and famous divorcing at a high rate, more people will profit from the deterioration of their lives.  The divorce lawyers will be richer, the paparazzi will profit more from their pictures and the news rags will sell more copies.

In the end, if Ashton had sat down with Demi and discussed his needs maybe they would have come to an agreement to try out a lifestyle that allows them to have their cake and eat it too!  Instead...everyone else is eating their cake - straight from their pockets.