March 25, 2010

Vanilla clubs and threesomes

by Nipplecharms

How do you find playmates at vanilla clubs and not get hauled away in handcuffs?   Single men are the easiest playmates to find. Although some men feel threatened with another naked man in the room, there are still many more out there willing to participate in  MFM.

I have found that guys think females should be flirtatious and outgoing. Men love women who flirt. She can be wearing a sexy dress or just a t-shirt and Keds, but guys will still she is smoking hot!   It’s really all about attitude. Everyone has seen a woman that is dressed to the nine’s but so standoffish that she would never play the role of aggressor. Women need to be able to walk up to a man and start a conversation and let it “go there.”   A wallflower will never get anywhere. 

Always make sure that your husband is included in every conversation when trying to hook up. When we go out, I always make sure the guy I find sexually attractive knows that I am with my husband. We always introduce each other. “Hi, I am Tami, and this is my husband Joe.” I never want to surprise the guy I am picking up with “Oh, my husband is coming with us too”. Some husband’s would rather just watch his wife “interact” with other men. The problem with this is that when the guy finally figures out the husband is part of the situation he is often scared away.

Once the cutie knows my husband is around and I am still flirting, things tend to further loosen up. My husband might whisper in my ear that this is the chance for me to say “oh, sweetie, my hubby and I love to play with others, would you be interested? We are all ok with it if you are.” When you are direct, most men will either say no and leave or is curious enough to hang around.

One important rule is to never over drink. Bad things tend to happen when too much alcohol is involved.   Keep a clear head as if you are dating someone new.   If everything clicks, plan to get a hotel room.   Never host at your house or go to theirs.

We have played like this many times. Sometimes we click with someone and sometimes not. I always make it very clear that my husband is always there; I never date alone and if they have a problem with another swinging “thing” in the room, then this is not for them.   Both my husband and I are straight and that too is made clear up front.

Check out some of my swinger’s jewelry here.   This jewelry can give people “in the know” that you like to play. The jewelry is fun to wear, sexy and give a little thrill when people ask what the jewelry means.

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