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R ebecca Ammon
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August 21, 2011
The Perfect Match by The Wife The Hubs and I are not looking to be habitual swingers. Ideally we would find one couple; maybe two we could be friends with and fuck the hell out of. It seems simple, and so many people in the lifestyle will say they are looking for a friends-with-benefits type situation that you would think finding a match would be easily taken care of. However, what you aren’t taking into account is you are talking about four personalities meshing in with everyone else. Every couple has their own comfort level, but for to some degree The Hubs has to feel comfortable with both of them and they have to like both of us. Then add in schedules, Aunt Flow visits, babysitters and life responsibilities, finding a couple can begin to feel like an impossible task. And then, it happens…you find your “perfect match”. No one is ever really perfect, but to you they are the ideal couple for you. We met The Perfect Match not long after returning to the lifestyle. We met for dinner not long after finding each other online and the conversation flowed around the table as if we had been friends for ages. We were all attracted to the other’s spouse and comfortable with everyone and everything seemed easy. Within the first two weeks knowing each other we had met up three times, all were vanilla visits but fun nonetheless. We texted and instant messaged each other all day long. The Match Hubs and Wife both showed equal interest in The Hubs and me as well as creating a same sex friendship with the spouses. We took it slow as we were newbies to the couple scene and life commitments aided in our play delay. And then one day I got a text from The Match Wife. It said, “I think I am pregnant”. Turns out the all-day chatting and texting had made the two of them ramp up their sex life and, well… oops baby was on the way. Back out into the world we went to find a new perfect match and five months later we are still searching. Yes, we have played since then, but no one has been friends-with-benefits caliber. I find that married men don’t chat, and if they do their wife won’t. Some couples the wife is very talkative with The Hubs while I hear nothing, and other times he can’t even get the other wife to respond to a text saying good morning while the hub is blowing my phone up! Let’s face it, a one sided flirtation is no fun at all. The Hubs and I agree that The Match Hubs & Wife ruined us because they were chatty, flirty and comfortable to be with for normal conversation. The set the standard high and so far no one has been able to meet the threshold. The problem is they are out of the game for who knows how long. Maybe after the baby arrives we’ll have another chance. In the meantime we keep looking for the next Perfect Match.
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