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February 6, 2012

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Swingers, neighbors and friends - Oh My!

Rebecca Ammon

Have you ever run into your neighbor at your favorite swinger's club? If you haven't yet, you probably will soon. We, Soccer Dad and me, have run into many people that we have known from all walks of our lives.

Our first experience was at the old Pleasure Palace (now Eyz Wide Shut). At the time we were regularly active in group sex (which always included more than four people). We had spent sometime flirting with a couple and had progressed to the play area to find a room. Like most nights we had a trail of couples who wanted to join in on the fun. The room we selected wasn't large - a double bed, a chair and a bean bag, but big enough to fit about eight people. Everyone paired up leaving me somewhat unaware of who had entered. The fun begins and the next thing I know I hear my husband saying 'hey Eric'. Apprently he knew Eric from college and was ironically fucking someone in the corner.

This was only the start of our 'familiar encounters'. We've run into coworkers that took one look at us and immediately left the club only to practically stalk us later on. More recently we ran into other soccer parents. We looked at them, they looked at us and we both blinked in shock. Once that shock had past we had a great time hanging out. But the most surprising was running into one of my children's school teachers. We agreed to keep it between us, but it's fun having that secret every time I see him *WINK.

You might think that you would welcome anyone with open arms into the lifestyle, but once someone who is in your vanilla life has crossed into your swinger life unexpectantly you may feel differently. Sometimes someone you know will make things awkward. They may be interested in you, but you aren't interested in them. Running away is not the answer when you encounter a familiar face, but hooking up isn't always the best idea either.

Treat your NEW lifestyle friends with respect. Consider how fucking them might impact your vanilla life with them. And if you don't care how your vanilla life will be after sex then by all means fuck away! I've been on both sides the fence and sometimes it fails miserably and other times its a fabulous new friendship.

Comments:

My wife and I have run into several people we know from work or other aspects of our personal lives. So far it's always been a universally good experience. No issues at all. If anything it just makes you a little closer to your coworkers because you both are sharing a secret. It's always been a good time.
I greet them and then remind them this place is exactly like Vegas!
I can one up you, I actually ran into a coworker on New Year's Eve at the club. She freaked intially, but when we got to the office on Tuesday we started shooting the shit on our adventures. Has turned out to be a great release valve for both of us to talk 'water-cooler' style....BTW the 'don't fuck people you work with rule' that people should have when they are single, still applies within the lifestyle in my humble opinion.
I've got nothing to hide so I see no reason to be ashamed and would not steer away. Love me for who I am and not for who I am not! I have no family except for my wife and children, her family lives in another state so there isn't much to worry about.

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