September 11, 2011

Should you sleep with a newbie?

New to the lifestyle? We’ve all been there. Swinging has many facets that are interesting to all kinds of people. Everyone starts at square one of newbieness and eventually find a staggered path into this lifestyle through the desire to enhance their sex lives.

Some newbies fit right into the swinging situation with ease and others, well not so much. My (our) first experience in the swinging lifestyle was a toga party. We had chatted and webcammed with several couples attending the party, but had never experienced anything but online sex. We were newbies for certain. We found ourselves at ease in the sexy scenario of oral sex, kissing, and touching at this party and later selected one couple to lose our swinger virginity.

We have had sex with countless newbies and for the most part all experiences have been positive. It only takes a few bad moments or one bad experience to spoil the fun and turn swingers off from newbies.

So what do you do if you are in the midst getting to know a couple and realize they are newbies? Of course you should continue on and get to know them, but remember that any awkwardness may be a sign that they will back out of the situation at any time or the moment may turn sour. It’s a real risk of having sex with a newbie.

If the couple is new the chances of the male having issues are HIGH. Everyone has to pop their cherry, and behaves differently when that time comes. I’ve found on more than one occasion the males have a little performance anxiety (of course this isn't just newbies). It usually passes, and if you really like the couple, then perhaps suggest that you have sex with your own partner the first time, and let the girls fool around a little bit, maybe the two girls give the nervous male a double blowjob.

Keep in mind that newbies can be just as exciting as seasoned swingers. They bring a bit of exhilaration to the moment because its one of their first experiences. At one time we had a strict no newbies rule, but as of late we have broken that rule and the result has been a great time! I recommend giving those newbies a shot!! If you set up the situation, where the new couple is comfortable and not rushed your experience should go just fine.

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1. That depends. The couple that was our first took the time to really talk to us before and after. It really helped. So if your are their first, take the time to help them into the lifestyle.