July 14, 2011

Sex with Less

It's 10:00 AM and you are waking up in a strange bed.  You squint your eyes from the sunlight beaming through the window.   Finally you roll over to feast your eyes  on your beautiful fuck buddy from last night and discover a monster. 

Maybe this is a little extreme, but I am willing to bet we have all stepped below our usual standards and had sex with someone we feel was somewhat lesser in looks than yourself.  There's nothing wrong with having standards.  After all we all have an image in our heads that attracts us and will draw us in without  fail to someone else.

What if you mentally make the decision to try out someone way below your league, someone who you would normally never look twice at? 

I've found that swingers tend to run two different groups:  there are those who are happy to socialize with everyone and even fuck others who most would view less than beautiful in comparision.  The other group are just plain arrogant assholes who stand in a group in the corner refusing to speak let alone make eye contact with anyone they perceive as lesser.  We all know who they are and maybe you are one of them.  Who do you think is missing out? 

Swinger sex is all about something new and someone different.  While I admit to be attracted most to that 20 something guy, blonde hair, blue eyes, and on the skinny side - I rarely if ever sleep with that guy.  Does that mean I am fucking lesser instead?  Not necessarily.  While I still feel there must be some sort of physical attraction, I am always open to spending time to get to know someone before my final decision is made on sex.  Sometimes physical attractions sneaks up on you when you thought it wasn't there at all.

What makes a person attractive?  Physical features are probably the first thing that attracts someone.  Second is easily personality along with confidence. 

I admit that I have had sex at time or two with someone I felt was lesser.  At first I thought 'he's ok, I think this will work', but what happened was I lost any attraction to him about two minutes after we got undressed.  I suppose at this point you might say I was taking one for the team accidentially.  

While that experience left me bored to tears spending the entire sexual encounter talking to myself in my head while looking at myself in the mirror.  Arrogant?  Yes.  Stupid?  Probably.  Just telling it like it was.  For those who are non-swingers you might be thinking you should never enter a situation you don't want and everyone else in the lifestyle you are thinking, yeah, I have done that before because my significant other is having a good time I just go along. It happens...

Other times when I have walked into the bedroom with someone I felt was a little too lesser, not really looking forward to the encounter, and I ended up having the best time ever.  It goes to show that looks and attraction don't speak for sexual prowess.  And giving a chance to someone outside your clique, your social circle, your own personal beauty level, or just that group you hang on the bar with may lead you to something pretty great.

No matter which way you go in the bedroom and no matter what your opinion is on me and my opinions...I can say, with tons of experience, that sex with lesser is worthwhile....sometimes.