April 21, 2011

Regular Size Women

When it comes to sizes, women are never happy. I've been self conscious about my size my entire life. Whether I was an emaciated 100 lbs or a voluptuous 145 lbs I still can't concede that my shape is what I want.

I have found that society today seems to be drawn to natural looking women. These women are slightly curvy, a few imperfections and most likely possess the back porch as a main attraction. Women like me are constantly fussing over that number listed on the tag on the back of their favorite jeans.

What exactly is a regular size woman? I asked this question to my favorite twitter buddy Vaginacology, but really didn't get the response I desired. He described a regular girl to me as "not too skinny (mass-media skinny), not too large (oops, I ate too many cheeseburgers), the average curvy girl". This explanation emcompasses probably more than 60% of the United States and even abroad.

According to the Standard BMI Calculator I have a BMI of 25.7 and this is considered overweight by the CDC. This must mean I am a regular size girl because everyone I know is overweight according these calculations.

The average curvy girl could be described differently by each person if I asked everyone I know. And yet I would still sit here and contemplate whether I am above average size or just plain old average in size.

The fact is that if I choose to continue to live this swinger lifestyle I am going to carry on with my obsession about my size. Upon first step into a swingers club every person with eye shot is sizing me up. Being a regular size girl doesn't always stand out in that group, but having something else special will draw them in and hold their interest.

For all of the women who fall in my regular size category, I need you to remind me as I promise to remind you, there is more than your size that matters. If someone passes judgement on you for your regular size, they probably aren't worth it anyway.

Does this mean I am finally accepting of my size? Eh, probably not, but I will do my best to walk with confidence and be happy with my regular size.

COMMENTS

1. You're beautiful mamita! I'm with you 100%. Curves are to be lovingly appreciated and celebrated. I have always had concerns about my body throughout the years, especially as my weight has fluctuated here and there. And it's something I'm still trying to make my peace with. I have realized that as I'm getting older (I'm 31 now - I know, that's still rather young) I am learning to love and appreciate myself more, which is something that I can't really say that I did when I was younger. This might sound cheesy, but your post was another reminder of the importance of never giving up on myself, never forgetting to love and appreciate myself just as I am, no matter my size and weight. And believe it or not I've always been attracted to curvy girls, though men have always been my preference. So, it has always baffled me that I've had such issues with my body image given the fact that I'm attracted to the very type of woman that I represent. It takes a lot of effort for me to keep my weight in check these days, so if I'm not careful I can easily pick up some pounds here and there. It's always great to be reminded that you're not alone in something. I always love reading your blog posts, but this one today touched me in an extra special way. Thanks love & I hope you're having a great day! :)  Anais 
2. The most beautiful women are the ones who love themselves. It matters less what they look like than how they feel. A sweet confident girl is sexy as hell and always so much fun in the sack. It sounds like you are one the right track, or maybe you are already there. I would have to meet you to find out more. ;)
   
   
   
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