May 26, 2011

Proper Orgy Etiquette

Swinger etiquette is tricky to understand.  We have rules, boundaries, and a vast amount of unknowns guarding this secretive lifestyle.  On occasion, or maybe all the time, we engage in group sex beyond the typical foursome.  The rules  in an orgy can create even more confusion.

I wouldn't consider swapping one partner in a room full of other partner swappers an orgy.  In my opinion that is sex in the same room with others having sex.  A full-on, big swinging orgy is engaging in sex with multiple partners in one room. 

This type of behavior can result in all kinds of trouble if proper etiquette is not followed.  Some of the same rules apply in an orgy as regular partner swapping.  As first, play second and respect your partners and his/her limitations. One should never assume that another is intersted in sex.  Start off by asking the person if he or she would like to play.  Demanding or forcing yourself on an unwilling partner will only get you expelled from the situation and likely blacklisted in the lifestyle.

Changing condoms between partners is very important.  Swinger behavior has its own inherent risk, no need to increase any possible problems by not using diligent care with protection.  Additionally, washing your hands and/or using hand sanitizer between partners is an additional means of protection for all.  If you are fingering one girl and move directly onto another you are spreading the same germs.  The same goes for oral sex.  Keeping a clean towel by to at the least wipe your face off is respectful to all potential partners for the date and again helps with spreading bacteria.

Be mindful of those around  you.  When multiple people are playing on a bed limbs, hair, etc. tend to be all over.  Do your best not to kick your neighbor, pull the wrong girls hair, or knock heads with the guy next to you.  Being fixated on your current partner is great, but being oblivious to those around you is not.

Never assume that because you are in a room full of people that the evening will entail an orgy.  Some people enjoy group sex and the atmosphere of others play, but that never means the same people are open to the idea of multiple partners in one setting.

If you are the single guy, always....always ask before you join a group.  All players need to be in agreement on a single man joining the fun.  If everyone is not comfortable with the situation just the presence of the single guy may end up causing a problem.  No one likes drama on a play date.

And lastly, don't forget to share.  Spending all your time on one person while everyone else is sharing is just selfish.  If we are all taking turns with each other, then by all means take turns and share!

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