September 4, 2011

Oral Sex: Is it really sex?

It has been a dilemma for a long time for me. Is oral sex actually sex? While actual sex requires intercourse which includes the sex organs of both sexes, oral sex requires only one sex organ and a mouth. 

Swingers typically categorize themselves as full swap and soft swap.  Full swap couples will engage in intercourse with others while soft swap couples will only give you oral sex.  I would guess soft swap couples believe oral sex isn't real sex.

Some tell me that if you actually orgasm during oral sex it should be considered real sex.  One facebook friends said "it depends on what else is going on, if you have intercourse then it's foreplay, but if it's all you do at the moment then it's sex".  Apparently it can be both!

If oral sex is both sex and foreplay does that mean a hand job and fingering sex also?  That would mean many of us would have to refigure when we lost our virginity.

In my opinion oral sex is just that....oral sex.  Let's leave the real 'sex' title to intercourse!

Comments:

1. Foreplay for me 
2. Both. Depends on the intent. And result. 
3. I think it depends on the type of relationship we have with the other person. If we're with people we have an ongoing relationship with, there's not much better - emotionally - than watching the other's eyes, kissing,... just having a good emotional 'bonding' bit of loveplay. And in that situation, oral is 'foreplay'. If we're playing with new partners, then maybe the emotional aspect isn't something we're looking for, and oral might be the extent of what we're looking for -- just some sexy, erotic play.  Does that make sense? 
4. Depends on whether or not there's an orgasm, in which case it's sex. 
5. This is a tricky one... A cock in a mouth is penetration, but toungue in a pussy? I dunno, possibly... Whether or not there's an orgasm from oral, qualifying it as actual sex is a stupid argument. Does that mean if a woman doesn't come from intercourse, she and her partner technically didn't have sex? That's just plain stupid.
6. I agree with comment #3.
7. Of course it is! Even kissing can be sexual.
8. If I have an orgasm it's definetly sex. Matter of fact, its sex no matter how you look at it.
9. Yes it is.
10. Anytime somebody is playing with another person's genitalia and an orgasm happens - that is sex. If you don't believe me, just as a jealous spouse that catches their significant other in the mouth of another!! EEEK!
11. Of course it is sex. That is why it is called oral sex. Is it a sexual or nonsexual act? Reading a book is no a sexual act, doing laundry is a nonsexual act, licking a clitoris IS a sexual act, stroking a penis IS a sexual act, etc. If you are of the opinion that oral sex isn't really sex because it only involves one sex organ then what is anal sex? Is that not a sex act? Why is oral penetration thought by some to be "just foreplay" yet anal penetration is not? Anal penetration only involves one sex organ.