May 2011

Too fat or too ugly to be a swinger?

Years ago I was invited into a private swinger group that touted all its members were 'height/weight proportionate and attractive'. The group hosted parties at local swinger clubs and some underground clubs. While the the members were all types and not quite fitting of the proclaimed description it still provided for a good mix of people. After all, we all have different tastes so who am I to say who is pretty enough or skinny enough?

 Swinging is one of those things that will inevitably affect your relationship, for better or worse

It goes without saying that swinging affects your primary relationship in ways that you never imagined, both for good and bad. I have been involved in the Lifestyle for ten years now, so I frequently get questions from people who want to know more about my experience. Please note you must be a member to read - sign up and explore!

Swinger etiquette is tricky to understand.  We have rules, boundaries, and a vast amount of unknowns guarding this secretive lifestyle.  On occasion or maybe all the time we engage in group sex beyond the typical foursome.  Those rues can create even more confusion.

Strange swinger rules

Most people believe that swingers live outside rules, but in some ways swingers often have more rules regarding their sexual interactions than the average vanilla couples. Often times swinger couples will discuss their rules before heading to the bedroom. Many swingers have standard rules, like myself: always use protection and respect the other person and his or her rules. However, some swingers have some pretty peculiar demands. 

When it comes to sex we all have different desires. Some like it soft and gentle while others are begging for it harder, faster, rougher.  While most will say they like a  nice blend of all ways of sex, sometimes you will crave something a little different.

 Masturbation: flying solo

I believe the saying goes 'everyone masturbates'. I have to admit that I was in my late 20s before I discovered the beauty of self pleasure. Since that time I turned into a closet masturbator.

Back to the beginning Soccer mom confidential: I'm a swinger

The difference between me and most other "typical" moms:  I am a swinger. And even after two years of confessing my deep dark secret to the world you might be surprised that you still probably couldn't pick me out of the crowd on a Friday night football game.  Why?  I am just a regular person like you.

 On or off-premise swinger clubs

The local lifestyle scene is fairly intimate, which means that whenever a new club opens up all the area swingers get excited about the potential of a new club attracting new couples. This excitement occurred this weekend with the grand ....

Fetish: what does it really mean?

While every claims to have a fetish, do we all really have a fetish or do we just have preferences and likes?  Many seem to proudly proclaim their fetish as if its a sexual badge. I like small feet, tying someone up is a huge turn on, or a woman in thigh highs makes my hormones dance like a bacon on a hot skillet.  While all these things might turn you on do you need them to get off?

 What action puts your orgasm over the top?

I recently discovered that a little nipple pinching increases the pleasure of my orgasm.  I've always enjoyed nipple play .......super pinching, twisting even to feel the pleasureful pain that sends my......... Don't forget to add yours to this list!  UPDATED!!

 Naughtiest places to do the deed

I asked my readers where the naughtiest places they have ever had sex. The response was overwhelming. Here is the current list of naughty locations!  UPDATED!! 

For years I have led a double life.  I have the persona that I share with my family, coworkers, and friends and another that I only share with virtual strangers (my swinger 'friends' and avid blog readers).  Tips on how to deal with your double life.

Staying safe in the lifestyle

With the press trying to infiltrate and expose Lifestyle clubs across the country, and the increasing number of police crackdowns on parties and swing hangouts, it’s safe to say that with the growing popularity of swinging, there is also a backlash brewing. Many swing communities are falling prey....Please note you must be a member to read - sign up and explore!

Are online dating sites biased against men?

Log into any online dating site and I am guessing you will find that women have a better deal. Whether you are posting a profile on AshleyMadison, Match.com, or SDC.com, most single women pay little or almost nothing. 

The truth in online dating profiles

Whether you're looking for a quick hookup, a swinger encounter, or a long-term relationship, online dating can be an easy way to access more potential matches than you could ever meet on the dating scene. Most serious searchers have more than one profile on more than one site, and sometimes even more than one persona. 

April 2011

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