June 12, 2011

How do you know they are into you?

It's Saturday night and Soccer Dad and I are walking into the local swingers club Eyz Wide Shut.  The club is full of potential friends, fuckbuddies, and one night stands, but where to begin? 

I would liken our first swinger club experience to a single man walking into a bar full of beauties. Excited, imtimidated, and ready for action. Those things don't ever change even when married a visting a club of a different nature.  Swinger clubs are virutal meat markets for the married or adventurous single.  Your first walk through that club meets you with all eyes, immediate judging, and quick irrational decisions. Although those things sound scary and less than appealing, with your head held high, confidence soaring you will strut across the room with the envy of everyone.  Confidence a key component of attraction.  Use it!

Yet where to begin?  After doing your inaugural entrance, sipping a drink or two, and engaged in small talk with several people you wonder if or how you will get someone into bed.  Even now, almost 10 years later, we are still are lost trying to figure out if another couple is into us. 

In my swinger relationship I am the herder and he is the follower. This means I am the one out hooking us up and Soccer Dad will just follow along. I tend to be a busy bee in the club scene. I want to talk to as many people as possible. This mass socialization has taught me to read people and some are easy to read while others take more time to figure out. If they act put out or disinterested I simply move on to the next hot couple. Eventually I will bring hubby over to meet a couple if I deem both suitable fuckbuddies. Sometimes this works flawlessly and other times we end up walking away separately.

So how do you really know if they are into you?  They stay interested, talking, flirting, etc.  Most couples will not spend an extended amount of time with you if they are not interested.  The decision FOR sex is not made in the first seconds of meeting, but the decision to NOT have sex most likely is.  Remember to walk into that swinger club confidently and you won't have a problem finding a couple who are into you.