Rebecca-Groping: when is it ok?

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January 23, 2012

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Groping: when is it ok?

Rebecca Ammon

It must be really confusing to some. A swinger atmosphere is sexually charged full of mysterious rules, puzzling signals and explicit behavior. How does anyone figure out what is right and what will get you kicked out of the proverbial club?

I have frequented the same swinger club for many years. And even with a change in ownership, new additions, and tons of new faces I never forget the boundaries of others. Being a female I have more lattitude with groping, but generally I keep my hands to only people I know and likely have fucked.

It can be difficult at times to discern when it's appropriate to grope and when it's not. I've been grabbed by men in a swingers club, some have even kissed me without permission. If you don't personally know a person, doing these things are inappropriate. And even though you may see others doing the same things with a welcomed response you have to remember that you don't know what connection the two have.

I don't mind a pat on the ass or even an accidentally purposeful brush up against my breast. After all, they do tend to get in the away at times. When I asked the question about groping to a group of swingers they all yelled "yes please", but if each of them were presented a situation of a complete stranger groping them they might change their tune quickly.

Next time you are out in the club and feel the need to grab that hot woman walking past you, stop and think, before you feel.

Comments:

I too like that you wrote this because some people really don't get that boundaries are different for everyone and until you know otherwise it should be assumed touching is not O.K. Men get a bad wrap for that sort of thing sometimes, but women can be worse than men.
As the male half of a very successful, long standing, and fun loving couple here in the Tampabay area Lifestyle community, I have to applaud you for writing this. The only thing that I would add is the blatant hypocrisy that is rampant. My wife frequently complains about overly aggressive women who come up to her and caress her breasts, or play with her long blond hair. And while I do enjoy it, I think that it is incredibly disrespectful for a woman to grab my cock without at least acknowledging my wife's presence, at least saying hello to her. If these actions are unacceptable for an unknown male to do to a female, then how is it accepted for the opposite? In the end, it's all about respect.
I myself have never groped, although i have been the gropee...by the host of a weekly off-premise meet n greet party hubby n i used to go to...& i didnt mind at all ;) but that was probably because i was attracted to him