June 28, 2011

Finding your play partners
for the night

Approaching a stranger for sex is awkward at best, let alone incredibly intimidating. What if they say no? What if they don't like you? How do you know if they like you?

I am the outgoing half of my relationship.  While Soccer Dad is happy chatting with a couple he is familiar with I am working the room introducing myself to just about everyone willing to talk.  The best part about swingers and swinger clubs is that everyone (or almost everyone) is open to meeting someone new.  It sometimes takes courage to speak to a total stranger, but once you step outside your comfort zone you will find it easy to make small talk.     

After the conversation begins to roll consider asking asking your prospective play partners to dance, offer to buy them a drink, or see if they want to take a tour of the place.  At a private club you can suggest going to 'the other side' - where the action happens. The answer to this question will likely tell you if they're interested or not.  Most swingers will not enter the private area of a club with another couple without the intent of having sex.

If you're out for drinks and dinner with another couple, suggest going somewhere more private - hotel or house. I've found that by the point that you're heading to another location, the hormones are jumping and everyone is ready to play. Don't be shy, jump into the fun.