June 30, 2011

Cougar Dating

Who says dating well out of your age range is just for Hugh Hefner? As I was flipping through the channels last night I came across TLC's Strange Sex. The program was about cougar dating. The woman profiled was 73 years old and was preparing for a date with a 25 year old. My first reaction was 'ewww', but after listening to both speak about their attraction to the age difference I understood a little more about why and sermised that many may be missing out on something great!

The Cougar was married for 25 years. She has experienced both a relationship and monogamy with someone her own age. After her divorce she decided she wanted to date men that she missed out on when she was younger. To accomplish thist she persued men in their 20s and 30s. After placing an ad online she was inundated with requests. What makes a younger man interested in an older woman as such?

Older women don't carry as much baggage. They have likely been through marriage and children and aren't looking for either. Cougars are likely self-sufficient and financially stable. There isn't that need for marriage or committment. A nice date and a good time seems to be what Cougars are looking for (at least this 73 year old woman).

I recently met a woman that fit this label as well. She is single, holds a professional career and happily dates younger men. While she admitted to me that she will shave a few years off her age in her personal ads to open the possibility up to more men, I would never have guessed her true age anyway. Does it really make that much of a difference?

Attraction is attraction. Whether you are 20 something, 50 something or 73 if another persons look, personality or charm appeals to you why get hung up on a number?

73 may seem far out of your ballpark and when I asked the question to many if you were 25 and she was 73 would you consider a hook up the responses were split almost evenly. For those who are out for fun and not a commitment, age is only a number that we use to count our days and not to determine fuckability.

As I approach my next decade - 40 is just around the corner - I must begin to consider what is too young and what is too old. I honestly can say that I only recently have found attraction in older men (50 something), but my attraction for that 20 something has not faded one bit. I sure hope that when I am 73 I can still pull a 25 year old into my bed. Bravo to Cougars of all ages!