September 26, 2011

Common sense rules for online flirting

I've been around the internet enough times to feel I just may be an authority on online flirting.  You might think how arrogant of her to make such a statement, but just as anyone else who has spent a great deal of time in yahoo chatrooms, webcam sites, and progressing now to Facebook, Twitter and most recently Google+ I have a knack for such things as flirting.  It simply explains my small time success as a lifestyle/sex blogger.

Many out there in social media limbo seem to misunderstand the intentions of internet flirting.  The simple fact is that it's flirting - not an invitation for sex and not an opening to proposition, request, or expect anything.

Rule #1:  Never assume he/she is interested in you (in the real world).  The internet is a land of make believe.  Me, you, anyone can be who or whatever your heart desires.  Even if you get attention online doesn't mean it will ever translate into the physical world.  Enjoy the flirting and if you catch a hint or want to drop a hint that you would like the flirtation to go farther then do so, but if you are ignored or rebuffed just move along.  Be cautious of your hints because you may just ruin any chance of furture flirtations with this person.

Rule #2:  If a person posts a sexy picture or comment online and it wasn't obviously directed at you - it wasn't for you.  A sexy picture or lurid phrase is put out there to garner attention, to start a conversation and not an invitation for anything.  Stop being such a dumb ass!  Have fun with it and don't ruin it for everyone else.

Rule #3:  Don't get all bent out of shape when you don't get an immediate response to your tweet, text, status update or email.  I do have a life outside of the internet and even if I am still posting tweets I may just not feel like responding at the moment.  I know I am not alone in this feeling.

Rule #4:  Don't stalk people online.  It's creepy and makes us want to block, ban or report you. 

Rule #5:  Be careful.  People will make invitations, offer dates or ask to meet you.  A little flirtation can be easily misunderstood.  Most people in their right minds won't meet a complete stranger who wants to fly across the country for drinks with you...don't accept it and don't offer it either.  Refer back to Rule #1 if you are confused.