October 25, 2011

A Single Males Journey in the Lifestyle
by
Leon

Hi There Lifestyle Blogosphere,

I’m Leon and I’m a single male. Of course when I refer to myself as a “single male” I don’t just mean that I’m a male who’s single. I mean that I have recreational sex with married women whose husbands like to watch (they sometimes even participate). I’ve been a single male for nine years and I’ve learned a few things over that time. I’m here to share some of those things with you.

I actually would rather be considered a single lifestyler as opposed to a single male. It‘s not hard to guess why. Single males typically have a very, very, very bad reputation among the lifestyle community and guess what? For the most part it’s 100% deserved. Single males far out number couples and single females on almost all lifestyle websites, are almost always thinking with the wrong heads and despite all their bravado and enthusiasm while behind their computer screens, very unreliable and flaky. If a single female is a unicorn then the single male could easily be called a donkey.

So how the heck have I been able to break through the stigma and develop a good reputation with the people I play with? I’ll share my big secret with you. Ready?

It’s because I get “it”. What’s “it”? Well “it” is not a big dick or a long tongue or all night stamina or six pack abs or a big bank account. “It” is a frame of mind. “It” is the understanding that the experience of being brought into a couples sex life is NOT ABOUT YOU. Crazy I know! Couples add new playmates to their sex lives because it turns them on. Husbands find new lovers for their wives because they love to see them satisfied and they love to see them satisfying others. A hotwife takes new lovers not because she misses the kind of sex she had in high school where her boyfriend would hop on, plug away for a bit and then hop off, but because she gets off on being uninhibited, naughty, slutty, filled, watched, etc. So the big secret is that you are there for her and by extension for him.

I’m lucky in that “it” comes naturally to me. Giving pleasure is what turns me on. Making a woman cum is what makes me hard. To me a happy, comfortable, turned on woman is the sexiest thing on Earth. Hotwives turn me on the most because they know what they want sexually and they are happy to help me get them there. This attitude has helped me to enjoy some of the most gratifying and enlightening experiences of my life.

So now you know. No excuses for being a donkey.

 

1. I totally agree with everything Leon said. It is always about the couple. The best article on single males in the lifestyle yet.
2. I love your article..... why cant I meet you instead of all the single douche bags i meet now? hehehe I also write a blog as a single female on the carmelcraze.com check it out! ~Kisses & Licks!~ Barbie (single lifestyler here)
3. I am a single lifestyler (love the distinction) and I think I am pretty similar to you and have also been blessed. A very spot on blog!
4. Just read your latest blog and I just wanted to say that Leon hit it right on the head with what he has said. Thanks for sharing it. All single males should read it and GET IT!