June 22, 2011

10 Reasons you should NOT be a swinger

While the swinger lifestyle sounds like a real life fantasy land it comes with a ton of baggage. If your relationship isn't strong enough to weather the complications this lifestyle will throw at you then you should never consider it as a possibility.

 The following is a list of reasons you should not be a swinger or consider the swinger lifestyle:

1. You have a sexually transmitted infection. I shouldn't have to say this but if you are currently infected with anything or carry a recurring infection please stay away from the lifestyle.
2. You are looking to cheat on a partner, spouse or significant other. This is never reason to swing and won't fix the issues in your relationship that makes you feel the need to cheat.
3. You are trying to get back at a partner, spouse or significant other for cheating on you. Again, this is never reason to start swinging and won't fix the issues in your relationship.
4. You want to convince your wife to have sex with another woman.  If convincing is necessary, it's not going to work.
5. You are tired of sex with your partner. 
6. You are trying to hold your relationship together. Swinging will not make your partner want to stay with you.
7. Your partner has no self-esteem and you think swinging will fix it. 
8. You are curious about seeing other people have sex.  Watching doesn't make you a swinger.
9. You just want to please your partner. Being a swinger is generally a team sport.  Doing it just because you other half wants to is a mistake. 
10. To strengthen your marriage.  Swinging is never a fix for any problem and attempting to use it as one will backfire.